Never Have I Ever !

 I had a young pretty  girl come to me for some menstrual issues etc ..Some stress for the last 2 years in her life and I could see her blanch when she spoke about it ....and her periods had gone astray...

 

and I am about to hand her the prescription when she abruptly blurts out- I have never experienced an orgasm !

 

And I am a little taken aback at first ...but then I recover as I realize she is really hoping to hear a solution from me ...so I tell her its not a hormonal issue for sure ..but then i realize shes looking for something else - woman to woman understanding ...

And I can actually feel an acute empathy for her at having missed such a marvellous beautiful uplifting experience ...for such a long time in her life ...to the point that she was left wondering if she will ever know the ultimate pleasure...I could see it pained her ..

 

So now I try to break it down

 

The first thing I  ask her in a very systematic manner is -

How did you try to achieve an orgasm ?

was it just through penetration or had she identified  erogenous zones for herself .. she seemed a little offended that I thought she was ignorant about the same ...and when probed she said she enjoyed intercourse to some degree ( although I could see this statement did not come with much conviction,) and she said she did feel pleasure with oral or tactile stimulation .. but she would reach a limit which felt overwhelming and she would not break through ..

 

I asked her to elaborate regarding this

" Stress" she was mentioning - where was it coming from ?  ..slightly suspicious..and just as I expected - it was a toxic relationship followed by a disruptive break up ...etc etc ... So I asked her the next natural question ..was it the quality of the relationship that prevented her from giving herself into the act completely .. suspending all inhibitions ?

 

I told her there were ways to do it to herself and it was absolutely empowering ...

She said she had tried but then digressed on about some sappy stuff ...that she should be in love with the guy and only then can it happen for her ... and I impatiently blurted out -

" Orgasm has nothing to do with emotional love !! "

and Im sure I shocked her for a moment .. haha

I hope she realizes the truth of this statement as she grows older and wiser ...Im sure she will .. ! At this point according to me she is still waiting for her fairytale...boy ! .. .theres a lot of disappointment waiting for her is all I could think ...but well we all need to do our own growing up

 

I told her about some of the Erotic text that has helped me hugely in this regard .. I suggested reading ( not watching ) 50 shades of Grey ...I think I was inching toward advising her to read Kamasutra but i stopped short of that ... I really wanted to tell her how a wild imagination can be your greatest lover ... but again now was not the space and time ...

 

I told her yeah this must be a problem for many many women but we never talk about it openly 

and she was like -- " maine socha aaj kar hi lun ! " and we both laughed like old friends

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